I am very excited to have another blog post of mine featured on the website, Grown & Flown, one of my favorite sites about parenting older kids. My latest piece came about when I found myself getting caught up in the insanity of my older son’s college search. And, let’s be clear, it was my insanity not his.
As I worked through my own anxiety and insecurities about the process, I realized that my kid would find his path…and I needed to stay out of it.
You can read that post here.
You will find my other post on Grown & Flown about learning to let go of your kids here.
i suck as a parent 
Posted by Claire Hearn on November 12, 2016 at 10:32 am
Hi – I just realized our Junior boys attend the same school and wonder if you would be willing to drop into one of our Class of 2018 Parents Association meetings to chat with us for a few minutes? – we like to get speakers in to try and add some different perspective to school life – about 20 of us and we meet once a month. Just so happens we have many on our Board about to go through the college thing for the first time – are in melt down panic mode and could do with a little sanity !
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Posted by Cathy H Harrell on December 21, 2016 at 12:16 pm
I loved your post on Grown and Flown. My poor daughter applied to several Ivy Leagues and although she was a National Merit Semi-finalist, had a respectable 32 on her ACT, was president of the Thespian Society and an intern at our local Arts Center, I had to warn her that she was not “raised” to be an Ivy Leaguer. She is now VERY happy at Loyola New Orleans where she has found a plethora of like-minded friends in an interesting city. But those few months of rejection were painful to watch as a parent.
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Posted by I suck as a parent on December 21, 2016 at 12:48 pm
Thanks, Cathy. It is so hard to watch our kids go through this process and to trust that our kids will find the right school. I’m glad your daughter found her place. My oldest ended up at Butler in indianapolis and is so happy there. I have one more at home who is a junior in high school and I am taking a completely different approach this time around: whenever a parent starts talking about colleges and test scores I leave the room. My kid will create enough of his own pressure, he doesn’t need me to be anxious, too.
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