A Letter To My Son On the Eve Of His College Break

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Dear Son –

It has been almost two months since you left for college (well, actually, 52 days but who’s counting) and tomorrow you are coming home for break!

I’m so excited!

And, a little worried.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m very happy that we will get to see you. I’ve missed your voice and your laugh and I’ve missed saying good night to you, but…let’s just say that this weekend might be an adjustment for all of us.

See, we’ve spent the past 50+ days trying to get used to you being gone. We’ve adjusted to your empty bedroom, our earlier bed times, and the lower food bills, not to mention the quiet.

We’ve settled into a little routine. And I’m sure you have, too. You are used to doing whatever you want whenever you want.

Can you see how that might be a problem??

So, in anticipation of these new adjustments, I wanted to make some “suggestions” to soften your re-entry and avoid the possibility that you—or we—might want to cut your visit short.

  1. Spend some time with your family. Yes, we know that some of your friends are coming home this weekend too, but I am sure you have texted, Skpyed and talked to them far more often than you have with us. Please don’t come home just so you can borrow the car to see your friends, have us do your laundry, and eat your favorite meals. As much as you are longing for the comforts of home, we are longing to spend some (quality) time with you. Leave your phone in your room during dinner, come to your brother’s soccer game, help us cook dinner. A little family time can go a long way especially when you want the car keys…or cash.
  2. We are not your roommates. They probably don’t care if you are up all night or if you come in at 4 am. We, on the other hand, do care. A lot. We have schedules, classes, and jobs to attend to. If you want to stay up until 3 am and sleep until 2 pm that’s fine (sort of). But if you wake us up at 3 am you better believe that you are getting out of bed four hours later. Just saying.
  3. Be nice to your brother. He misses you even if he doesn’t always want to talk to you when you are on Skype. Sure, he has been enjoying his “only child” time but he still likes having you around. (At least I think so. I haven’t actually asked. I guess we’ll find out soon enough).
  4. I promise not to ask too many questions if you promise to answer just a few questions with full sentences and no eye-rolls or attitude.
  5. I have been stocking the fridge and planning your favorite meals. I have changed the sheets on your bed and vacuumed your room. I like to dote on those I love—you know that—however, that doesn’t mean that I intend to wait on you hand and foot. Even if you do flash that smile and say please. That’s what grandmothers are for. And, yes, you have to see them this weekend, too.

See you soon!

Love,

Mom

 

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10 responses to this post.

  1. Can’t wait to hear how it goes! Have fun.

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  2. Posted by Kathy roeser on October 15, 2014 at 3:26 am

    Spot on….perfectly said!!!

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  3. Thanks, Kathy! Is there anything that I missed?

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  4. Posted by mary on October 15, 2014 at 7:11 pm

    Looking forward to seeing him. Can’t wait. Yia Yia

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  5. Posted by Margaret Lamason on October 15, 2014 at 9:30 pm

    You really don’t suck Connie. And if it means anything, I usually cry when I read your posts. Even up until the second I start laughing….Good luck. Do a post mortem.

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  6. Posted by Arnold Bruni on October 23, 2014 at 1:48 am

    From a Grandmother ( Who had four sons and one daughter) : Exactly my sentiments! You read my mind; however, no social media at the time to be able to vent!! Very good and humorous expressions of feelings. Keep up the good work of being a good parent and loving Mom!

    Mary Ellen

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